Bruce, I so identify with you and your wife....Bless you for all you both have been through. Yes, I've been through heartbreaks of 3 miscarriages and also 2 failed adoptions. (The mothers changed their minds when the baby was born.)
You spoke of His plan...I agree that we all have a Path that is best for us and now that I am over 60 and can look back a bit, I see WHY some things happened the way that they did for us.
We also went through all the fertility stuff, including two surgeries on me, and Invitro....several times. I finally said, "I'm done. One more needle or invasive procedure and I will go nuts." So we focused on fostering -- both animals AND children. In the end, it was the fostering that gave us our daughter who we adopted at birth. She is now 22 years old.
If we had been successful early on with having our own biological child, we would never had fostered and helped 19 youngsters and never would have taken that last chance of adopting and been given our daughter. We also wouldn't be a part of our daughter's bio-mom's family. Her bio-mom was our last foster daughter and still very much a part of our lives, even though she has married and had 3 more children (our honorary grand kids).
Sorry this is so LONG, but I do believe there IS a reason for some of our heart ache. We are all children of God and our souls are constantly learning. And Yes, I do believe there is a reason that you adopted your son. We all choose who will be in our lives for a reason... Love doesn't recognize "blood relations". Blessings!
Maryann |
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