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| From: |
Violet |
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Saturday, July 05, 2008 3:09 AM ET |
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Teresa |
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Re: Gail |
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Great advice Teresa;
Gail,people say thoughtless and just plain stupid things when you're grieving but it sounds like your neighbours are trying their best to be kind.
My best friends had me to stay over Christmas - they insisted that I shouldn't be alone for the Holidays just after Mum passed.
We had Christmas day at the house of friends of theirs who I've never met. I sat like a zombie with red swollen eyes , barely spoke to anyone and was generally the "life of the party " (....not). Later I wondered what on earth they must have thought .
I've met them since and you know, they've had a lot of sadness in their lives too - a son lost to drug addiction and other things - they told me they completely understood how I was feeling and how much better I was looking for having gained a bit of weight
( was around 42 Kg at Christmas - the turkey on the dinner table looked healthier and happier).
People DO care and most mature people have experienced grief and loss a number of times in their life - if you reach out you'll find this to be true.
Feeling better about yourself can be a slow process but you have all the time in the world to get there and many, many people willing to help - those who can't understand ...well it's their loss because helping others gives meaning to life - they're missing out on a pivotal experience.
Be kind to yourself Gail, the only person you owe anything to at this time is yourself and when you're feeling better , you can "pay it forward" for those who helped you.
praying for Health and Healing for you
Love and Light
Violet
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