Re: Induced ADCs- Are They Genuine?

From:	Snapdragon
Date:	Friday, July 04, 2008 11:30 AM ET
To:	Steve D.
Subject:	Re: Induced ADCs- Are They Genuine?

Hi Steve,

I understand your point of view; in fact, it had been my own up until a short while ago. The notion of a “right” time was one I theorized based on my dreams and my personal experience.

Having said that, the more I think about it, the more sense it makes. Again I use the comparison of the “how to” manuals- it is so tempting when we are missing something from our lives to want to follow a process to help attract that thing. For me, it seems that this way of thinking may potentially carry with it some dangers.

I have read that there have been those so desperate for a communication from their loved ones that they are always open, always asking, that openness can sometimes be the entry point for those spirits other than our loved ones. I don’t think there are malevolent spirits and I am in no way trying to scare anyone, however, when I read this I thought twice about my petitions to my Dad that he try to make contact with me.

What if there was some other loved one who wanted to make contact with those they left behind and somehow my “openness” allowed them an opportunity- this is not something that I want to encourage because it is not my intent and it may end up being much more than I bargained for. I’ve read some accounts of people who ended up with visitors other than those they had wanted and needed professional assistance to send them back. These were spirits of those who found a way in through that person’s desire for communication with their loved one- they had similar needs to reconnect with their loved ones too and used that little porthole that was created by the desire to come back some way. It’s probably similar to how we feel when we miss our loved ones- those desperate moments when we’d do anything for contact. I am sure they miss us too and there are those who’d try to make contact to try to get to their loved ones as well.

Going back to the same analogy I used earlier about the rules written to help us find a meaningful relationship- when we are open to this process and willing to follow these rules with the hope of a relationship at the end, we are in a state of longing. This state of longing may sometimes leave us vulnerable to the wrong type of people- how many times have we heard of people doing things against their better judgement, putting up with bad or violent behaviour, or allowing others to take advantage of them because of their longing to be in a loving relationship?

Of course, we are talking about two very different situations- relationship self-help versus creating the necessary environment for an ADC to be easier to receive. I have been giving this much thought because I miss my Dad so much and I would love to have a relationship with him as close to the one we had as possible. After the reading I have done and the several hours contemplating, the conclusion I have arrived at for me is that I need to allow this contact to occur naturally. My Dad reinforced that conclusion over one year ago in that dream, but my need for continued contact prevented me from fully being able to understand that until now.

Everyone needs to arrive at what is best for them in their own time. Part of my wish for several ADCs was to continue to reinforce my belief that my Dad was ok and had just transitioned to a better life. For me, part of it was also that it was the closest I could come to the relationship we had earlier. For me it was a way to continue things as they were, but I need to accept that they never will be as they were. My Dad will never again be physically present and no ADC will or can change this. I have never felt I was in denial of my Dad’s “death”, but in a sense I have been and I am still because I am finding ways of coping with his physical absence by trying to ensure a continued spiritual presence; when in reality, I have learned that through all my praying and wishing that I haven’t had to do anything at all- that he has never left, our relationship didn’t end- it only changed. The messages that come spontaneously reinforce this.

That contact will come when it is best for me and my Dad. Even though there have been critical times over the last year and a half he’s been “gone” when I have asked for his help and guidance yet he has not intervened- I have been allowed to make my decisions as to how I live my life, good or bad, on my own. He has sent messages when it was “right” for our relationship- not when I begged for them and pleaded with God, feeling that I could not go on if I didn’t get some sort of sign.

In my life there have been many times when I have “laid the groundwork” for things that ended up materializing and not being the right things for me. Only after, in retrospect, did I discover that had I let things naturally progress, allowing myself to feel the pain of the emptiness that was the basis for my strong longing, my choices may have been different. I can’t see why that would be any different in the spirit world- a desire to connect based on longing may not bring what it is that we really want and need. Additionally, I think it is necessary to feel the pain of loss- there is no way around it and eventually it can take us to a place of healing. It has taken me much to get to this point and again, these are my conclusions only. I respect and understand the need for connection and on that note I pray that we all find the peace of mind and heart that sometimes eludes us when we are left on this side of the veil. I am learning a lot through this thread, it is heartening to see so much love for our loved ones who have gone before us.

Brightest Blessings,
Snapdragon